Create your own recipe for a relationship you desire not according to other's model of relationship

How can you create happiness in a relationship? Do you know what you and your partner want out of a relationship? Is relationship about commitment or love? What is love?

Once I read in a book called Survived by Love,"I believe we merry for many reason but underlying many of them is one simple and powerful motivation, we all seek to fill the whole for our souls through LOVE. Perhaps all of our attempts for relationship come from that driving force which is LOVE. The best chance for filling that whole in the soul is not a committed marriage, its a mature marriage free from expectations of society and the cultural craziness surround marriage and love."

Marriage gives us a partial fulfillment, love gives us the fulfillment we crave. Relationships are about unconditional love, acceptance and understanding each other's mistakes and faults. Relationships are not just about yourself and your own needs, its traveling beyond your own selfishness needs.

Perfect partnership does not exist, its about accepting the imperfections of life's journey that has shape each one of us. Relationships are about being open to embrace change and be different from the rest of the population so you can create your own recipe for love and happiness.

While a vast majority of the population expect to be handed over a ready perfect mate with all the qualities  included but the reality of the fact is that you take time to work on your relationship. A perfect mate does not exist, you make it to what works for you and your partner, as long as you both are willing to communicate and seek some professional advise.

A loving relationship takes time, patience and fulfilling each other's needs. A long lasting relationship comes from sharing the same values, morals and goals.

Mary Nawabi

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Studied at Tony Robbins-Madanes

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Are you depressed?

Why do people feel depressed? Depression could start out as a very mild case and could lead and end up in severe condition of being suicidal. Depression as mild as sadness could lead to unwillingliness to do and enjoy normal daily life activities . How do I know this? cause my mom suffered from depression for years untill she started working on herself and making changes through coaching. I was honored to help my mom come out of depression and live her life just the way it should be with joy and happiness.

"Our emotions are the driving force that determines the quality of our lives.  Everyone is capable of experiencing the whole range of human emotions, yet many people allow themselves to experience only a narrow range.  One person may go from feeling sad to angry to sad again, while another may go from feeling love to joy, and someone else may regularly experience fear, anxiety, and pain.  It is characteristic of western culture to believe that our emotions are outside of our control.  Most people believe that the depressed person is simply depressed, does nothing to deliberately bring on that state, and therefore cannot do anything to change it.  Similarly, the happy person simply has a happy disposition and is also not responsible for bringing on that state. 

            We seem to believe that our emotions are determined by a mysterious predisposition.  The truth is emotions do not come to us.  We go to them.  If you regularly experience anger, sadness, guilt, or fear, instead of joy, gratitude, compassion, and excitement, this is because these emotions meet certain needs within you.  Fortunately it is possible to make a conscious choice about your emotions"

"All behaviors, including emotions, consist of three parts working together: patterns of physiology and posture, patterns of mental focus, and language patterns.  In order to be depressed, a person must assume a certain posture, focus on certain specific things, and use certain specific language patterns that lead to depression.  Robbins will ask Tahnee to deliberately put herself into a state of depression so that the audience can see what patterns of physiology, focus, and language are necessary for her to feel depressed."

(from my Coaches Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes)

If you know someone who suffers from depression please forward this video to them. Email me for a 30min FREE consultation over the phone. marynawabi@gmail.com

Are we born with personality traits or is it developed?

Nature versus Nurture!!!

When considering the venerable debate of whether “Nature” (genes) or “Nurture” (environment) is more important in affecting human behavior, the conclusion remains somewhere in between according to the human psychology studies.

We know how people inherit blue eyes, brown hair, height, fair skin and other physical characteristics. But where human behavior comes from is still being argued. We still don’t know how much is decided by the DNA in our cells and how much is determined by where and how we live, our parents and siblings and various life experiences. They all play a factor.

Regardless of our DNA and the environmental affects on our behaviors, we have the ultimate control to change our behaviors. The only time we will take the steps to make a change if the end result gives us the certainty/power, acceptance/approval, love/connection. These are the primary reason why people engage in certain activities regardless of our DNA. People are only driven by pain and pleasure in taking actions over any area of their life. 

Surely, we are born with certain DNA characteristics, which includes our strengths and weaknesses. As we develop into our environment, we take on certain behaviours to mold into that environment so we can get accepted and become part of that social group.

Regardless of our background and DNA, we can train any human beings to become more compassionate, loving and help each other if only we train them to feel with their hearts and not to think from their egos.  We all have that power inside of us. I have coached people to replace their hatred with love and open their hearts to accept others. I have seen this in my own experiences with others. When I consult clients to help them over come life challenges, they first have this built wall full of limitations and the belief system they have to block love and good energy.

Once I train them to open their hearts and love, all of the limitations go away. They start to live and be happy.

Are you in the mids of deciding to stay or leave your long time relationship

Its often very difficult for people to leave a long term relationship, deciding if its the right decision or not. How can you make sure if its the right decision? Need more help on this? Email me.

If you think someone else can benefit from this please forward this to them. If you need some coaching advice please reach out to me via email at solutions4everydaylife@gmail.com

Did you know that forgiving is one of the roads to feeling happy?

"To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love.
In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness." -- Robert Muller

I talk to so many people on daily basis about overcoming their day-to-day life challenges as a Life Coach. Whether its about dealing with their teenage kids, couples/relationships troubles, young adults from other cultures in the US, teens and drugs, adultery and the list goes on and on.

In almost all cases I teach and help them to forgive in order to start living a happy life. It seems so difficult for people to forgive because of the way they hold on to their believe systems and values.

People hold on to those values so strictly that it actually hurts them in the long run and blocks their energy for feeling happy, if they only were to open their heart for forgiveness.

Why do we have such a difficult time forgiving? Its because no one teaches us to learn to forgive and let go of the belief system we built over the years. We want to be right about something wrong done to us. Being right is part of the ego which promotes a very unhealthy life.

"One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything before you go to bed" -- Ann Landers

Also, when we have certain expectations from the ones we love around us, once the expectations are not delivered we hold grudge and blame, therefore forgiving becomes very difficult.

When you forgive it takes you from the place of the victim to that of a victor." -- Unknown