A concept developed and popularized by Tony Robbins
One of the topic that Tony Robbins, the Master coach and Strategic Interventionist, covers in his "programs is the “Crazy Eight”.
In brief, the emotional pattern of alternating between sadness and anger is called a crazy-eight. Many people live most of their lives alternating between these two emotions.
The person experiencing a crazy-eight might start by getting really sad and helpless over an issue (job, marriage etc..). However, when this sadness begins to make him/her feel too weak OR when he/she stops feeling sorry for himself/herself, he/she snaps out of it with anger. This makes him/her feel strong for short time. But then he/she cannot remain angry all the time OR gets tired of being angry OR he realizes that anger is not getting him/her anywhere; so he/she goes back to connecting with himself/herself and feeling sad again. Then he/she gets tired of that OR feels that self pity is not going to get him/her out of this situation. So he/she gets angry again.
This is a very simple pattern, and it’s not unique.
Do you experience this? Do you know anyone who lives like this? Do you know how to get him/her out of it? It is easy when you know how.
1. Find out about your (or his/her) 6 human needs. (These are certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth and contribution)
2. Prioritize them (i.e. rank them in order of importance to you).
3. Determine how you are meeting your top 3 needs.
4. Think and determine how the crazy eight is meeting these needs.
5. Is this pattern (the crazy eight) making you feel important (SIGNIFICANT) to those who love you? Do you get more attention (CONNECTION) from others? Does it offerCERTAINTY of attention? Is it exciting at times, hence providing VARIETY? Or CERTAINTY in failure keeps you in your comfort zone?
6. It is said that if a behavior meets at least 3 out of 6 human needs it becomes addictive. And unless determined action is taken it will be very difficult to break out of it.
7. So take the determined action. Understand your needs and then find a new and better way of meeting your top 3 needs. DROP the crazy eight and move on with your life. The Choice is yours…"
One of the topic that Tony Robbins, the Master coach and Strategic Interventionist, covers in his "programs is the “Crazy Eight”.
In brief, the emotional pattern of alternating between sadness and anger is called a crazy-eight. Many people live most of their lives alternating between these two emotions.
The person experiencing a crazy-eight might start by getting really sad and helpless over an issue (job, marriage etc..). However, when this sadness begins to make him/her feel too weak OR when he/she stops feeling sorry for himself/herself, he/she snaps out of it with anger. This makes him/her feel strong for short time. But then he/she cannot remain angry all the time OR gets tired of being angry OR he realizes that anger is not getting him/her anywhere; so he/she goes back to connecting with himself/herself and feeling sad again. Then he/she gets tired of that OR feels that self pity is not going to get him/her out of this situation. So he/she gets angry again.
This is a very simple pattern, and it’s not unique.
Do you experience this? Do you know anyone who lives like this? Do you know how to get him/her out of it? It is easy when you know how.
1. Find out about your (or his/her) 6 human needs. (These are certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth and contribution)
2. Prioritize them (i.e. rank them in order of importance to you).
3. Determine how you are meeting your top 3 needs.
4. Think and determine how the crazy eight is meeting these needs.
5. Is this pattern (the crazy eight) making you feel important (SIGNIFICANT) to those who love you? Do you get more attention (CONNECTION) from others? Does it offerCERTAINTY of attention? Is it exciting at times, hence providing VARIETY? Or CERTAINTY in failure keeps you in your comfort zone?
6. It is said that if a behavior meets at least 3 out of 6 human needs it becomes addictive. And unless determined action is taken it will be very difficult to break out of it.
7. So take the determined action. Understand your needs and then find a new and better way of meeting your top 3 needs. DROP the crazy eight and move on with your life. The Choice is yours…"
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