How to talk about sex with your children!!!

If you are not talking about sex to your children, someone else is and that person may not be the right source to get guidance from for your children. Children need to trust you as their primary source of guidance. As kids continue to understand and experience their bodies, and the physical changes of puberty emerge, your attitude and acceptance will continue to play an important role in their healthy development.

As kids mature sexually, they're often both excited and scared about growing up — especially when they notice hair growing in new places, get their periods, or start having wet dreams. They spend a lot of time wondering if they're "normal" and comparing themselves with their friends. Kids — especially early and late bloomers — need lots of reassurance as they head into this uncharted territory.

Puberty can be a very confusing time, with lots of physical and emotional changes, and kids need to know what to expect in the months and years ahead, even if they're too shy to ask.

By being open to your young child's questions about bodies, babies, love, and sex, you set the stage for continued conversations and openness when puberty begins. Welcoming the questions about your child's changing body and sexual issues — and not treating them as dirty or embarrassing subjects — will help foster a healthy sense of self-acceptance in your child. It also makes it more likely your child will use you as a resource for information and guidance.

Mary Nawabi

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I believe if you are not happy in your intimate relationship, then you are not happy.

"I believe if you’re not happy in your intimate relationship, you’re not happy. Because no matter what happens, no matter how much love we have from our children, or how much we accomplish in our lives and how much we achieve, I personally believe in our soul, everybody wants that experience of aliveness." Tony Robbins

This is one subject that I am very passionate about because I always believed from early childhood that everyone deserves to be happy in their relationships. 

I witnessed my parent's relationships not as the one to follow as my model of marriage. My dad married my mom because he was ready to start his family life but my mom married my dad because she wanted to get away from the abuse at home. For my mother it was an escape from one bad situation. She had always resentment towards my dad because she never felt that she was given much options to choose from. 

Growing up I witnessed how much she resented her choice, later in life she realized that my dad had been the best husband but that came a lot later in her life.  

The same way for all of us there are moments in life which some calls it middle age crisis or the moments that you question everything, your career, your relationship, your health and etc..questions that one may not be sure whether you are in the right place or not. 

Clarity is the last thing that crosses your mind about your decisions, you wonder and wanna make sure you are making the right decisions. You wish a psychic would just show up and tell you  one way or another so you could release the block of energy which is holding you from being present 100%. 

Relationships do die after a while or things get boring and its a natural process to anything in life we constantly.  I say that also because, that sense of aliveness, affects your kids as much as anything else as well. 

I really believe that any relationship can be brought to love and passion again, but the challenge of course, is that most people today have a prospective, an expectation, where the highest standard they have is not for themselves, but what they expect from their partner. 

I think, that’s the number one reversal that has to occur in any relationship for things to transform. That one’s, as long as we’re looking at what am I getting out of a relationship, then we’re going to be disappointed, we’re going to be frustrated, we’re going to have challenges.

 

I see so many relationships fall apart because people got so caught up in fulfilling their needs and wanting to  feel significant because it was missing in their current situation. 

In most cases I see roles of gender being reversed, a man using his feminine energy and a woman using masculine energy. A woman needs a man who can protect her and tell her that she will be taking care of no matter what. When a man takes the position of a passive person using feminine energy, the relationship is doomed to end. 

If you need some coaching advice on your current situation, send me a message and ask for a 30 min consultation. 

Mary Nawabi 

Certified Life Coach

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What causes for most people to engage in destructive activities, such as drinking, smoking, over eating or even drama? Having double standards? Everything we do in life and the actions we take that are not healthy for us are caused by specific reasons. You can create a life many have only dreamed about in the past, a life you truly deserve. Being trained and coached by Tony Robbins who has passionately pursued the answers to questions, "What shapes human behavior? How can we create lasting change within ourselves and others?" Through research he has conducted, as well as interaction with 50 million people from 80 countries - He has synthesized some fundamental tools and strategies to help maximize our capabilities as human beings and measurably accelerate the pace at which we can achieve our true goals and desires.

Through Tony Robbins findings, I can help just about anyone who is ready to change their life right away. The results speak for itself. Join me for a 30 min complimentary session to find out what is stopping you from achieving the life you want to enjoy. solutions4everydaylife@Gmail.com

Are you really ready to make some changes in your life?

Change happens from within. We often blame other to make changes so it can suit our desires. Its a lot easier to pinpoint someone else's mistakes and make demand to get them fixed rather than looking at ourselves to make the changes. You want to see people around you including your love ones change for better, start changing yourself. We often want our life to come easy without putting any extra efforts into it specially in our relationships. I have been working non-stop to keep taking my relationship into a higher level. Relationships are like flowers, you have to take care of them otherwise they will die.  We expect everything to come easy to us, whether its our fitness, career, money, or relationships. All great things come with hard work, dedication and patience.

Call me for some coaching advice on making some changes in your life. I give one hr FREE coaching advice.

Mary Nawabi

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What motivates our children?

 Question?

What motivates our children? Why do some kids have a sense of directions in life while others make destructive decisions that don't make sense? Why do so many adolescents  make communication so difficult that their parents cannot help them to change their directions? And how can we influence our growing children even when communication is difficult and even when they are uncooperative?

Answer!

The truth is that in many cases its their dynamic within the family itself that drives teens to make poor decisions even while their parents trying their best to help them.

In any family unit the child is trying to be helpful in most situations, even if it takes an unhelpful form. A child's or adolescent's bad behavior stems from the family's dynamic which could lead later to drug and alcohol issues. Often parents don't see their own faults contributing to the child's bad behavior because in their mind they have done everything to raise a healthy child which indeed might be the case but at times doing your best as a parent may have a different effect on the child. Every child is so different and their needs are different, therefore requiring additional knowledge to give what a child needs while growing up.

The number one fact is to remember giving unconditional love and accepting them even if they make mistakes.  The worse thing is to condition your love for them based on some mistakes they made. They can face certain consequences for their mistake but not conditioning your love. Children need a lot of certainty at home as they are  growing up, they face tremendous amount of uncertainty in their environment outside of their homes. The best certainty is to give them unconditional love and no criticism. Positive feedback, understanding them, and accepting  motivate them in life to do well.

5 Common Words That Create Failure

"Your level of success is predetermined by the words you use every day. Avoid these five "failure" words.

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The words that people use every day determine whether they will achieve failure or success. There are five words that, in my observation, frequently show up in the conversation of losers, much more so than in that of winners. Here they are:

1. Luck

Although it's true that unforeseen events can affect outcomes, it was not luck that made the difference. It was the events. Luck had nothing to do with it.
Believing in luck focuses your thoughts on an imaginary construct that neither you nor anybody else can change or affect.
What's worse, luck is an excuse that explains away failure ("It was just bad luck") and devalues your successes ("It was just good luck").

2. Enemy

It's true that you have competitors, and that sometimes, for you to win, they have to lose (and vice versa). Even so, there are no enemies in business.
Enemies are opponents in warfare, when people are killing one another. Business is about making things better, not killing people.
The moment you demonize competitors by calling them enemies, you close off your business options. Today's competitors are often tomorrow's partners.

3. Rejection

Wouldn't it be nice if people always said yes to your ideas? Well, sometimes people aren't going to like your ideas, or even you personally, for that matter.
You can pathologize such events by thinking of them as rejection, or you can understand that what really happened was that the other person's desires didn't match yours.
Rather than using a word that automatically makes you miserable, concentrate on changing your approach or approaching somebody else.

4. Hate

I cringe every time I hear somebody use this word in casual conversation. At work, it's usually something like: "I hate my boss" or "I hate my job."
Hate is a sick word, and it creates sickness in your body. Every time you use that word, you might as well be sticking a cancer cell in your body. Seriously.
I'm not saying that you've got to be sweetness and lovey-dovey about everything, but why pollute your brain by actually hating anything or anybody?

5. But

I'm sure you know somebody who can't say anything about any idea, plan, or activity without crutching the sentence with the word but.
It's always something like "Hey, that's a great idea, but..." or "I agree that we need to take action, but..." It's discouraging, and it kills momentum.
There's a substitute for but that actually creates momentum: the word and. Try it next time a but is about to emerge from your mouth.
Tomorrow, I'll give you the words that, in my observation, signal that a person is a winner rather than a loser. So stay tuned.:" Inc.com Geoffrey James